A common problem when I taught school involved students lying to their parents about why they got into trouble. Smart students quickly learned that if they could get to the parent first, they could get the parent into a rage against the teacher, the parent would complain to other parents, and then the parent had a hard time backing down when the teacher told what actually happened. Some parents would then refuse to back down and would launch telephone smear campaigns against the teacher. What the parents didn't know was this:
The students, especially their own child, regarded the parent as stupid.
If it got serious enough, the school board would look into the matter, and they would try to solve the problem graciously. But among themselves, the school board believed:
The parent was stupid.
Some parents prided themselves on how afraid the teachers were of them. They would have been less proud if they had known what the teachers thought about them when they discussed the situation among themselves:
The parent is stupid.
If you want to succeed in the Christian life, you will need to influence other Christians by your good example. You will need to have other Christians trust you to handle problems. You cannot do this if you make decisions without hearing the entire matter first, because if you do, other Christians will regard you as stupid.